Let us say that there is a family in need of food... okay should we give them money to get food? Let me give you the circumstances behind it. The father is a heavy drinker... the mom is an abused wife and the children are 2 years of age and the other one is 4. Would you give or not give? Here is what I may do.... I would first try and talk to them as a family... then I would go myself and get their groceries... so the money could not be spent on anything else... then continue to help them in the future so they could eventually help themself. What would you do?